School phobia, also known as school refusal, is a condition in which a child does not want to go to school, rejects school, and experiences anxiety related to it. Anxiety can be expressed verbally or physically. The child can express their reluctance to go through words or sometimes through symptoms like headaches, frequent toilet visits, and predominantly stomachaches.

School phobia is commonly seen at the beginning of preschool, kindergarten, and first grade. Although anxiety can occur during the start of middle school and high school, it is rarely seen at the beginning of university. The frequency decreases as the child gets older.

Separation is experienced by both the parents and the child in school phobia, leading to separation anxiety.

The starting period of school is a period of adjustment for both the family and the child. This situation should be evaluated, taking into account both the child and the family. Coping strategies for separation should be worked on with the child and the family. If the child has had experiences of spending time without the mother before starting school, i.e., if a healthy attachment has been established, starting school will be easier.

When starting school, it is important to have an orientation period that lasts for a short time with the first grade students starting a week before school. School phobia is more intense during the first week of school and is expected to decrease gradually, but it can last up to a month. However, if there is no improvement, it is advisable to consult an expert psychologist.

Here are a few suggestions that can help during this period:
– Preparation for school should be fun and accompanied by songs and rhymes.
– Never get angry with the child because of their feelings.
– The child should go to school with an adult who is emotionally more comfortable with separation.
– The designated meeting place after school should be shown to the child and adhered to carefully.